The
New York Times, in their Room for Debate section here, has a debate titled “Should
Kids Pick Their Own Punishments.” There
are authors who argue for and against the issue. Personally, I think it’s the wrong issue.
Having
to punish at all means your system has broken down. It’s much better to see what children have
done that is praiseworthy, and focus on that.
This
doesn’t mean you don’t allow natural consequences to happen. If your children are rude to you—aren’t
saying “please” and “thank you,” explain that their rudeness makes you feel
bad, and not inclined to give them whatever they are asking for.
And,
lest you think I’m just a wide-eyed radical, I taught high school English for
37 years. I think in that entire time I
only gave out two detentions, and my classes were well-behaved and
hard-working. I never punished my own
children, and they are now all stable, loving, hard-working adults.
The
students I had who were always getting grounded were the kids with the behavior
problems. The kids who were punished for
not doing homework were the kids who, in high school, still didn’t do
homework.
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